Hello, I am 19 years old, not married, I have no children. My problem is that I hate pregnant women and newborn babies. When I see a pregnant woman, I want to punch her in the stomach, leave, run away, not see her anymore, not hear and forget faster. I hate newborn babies even more, and that's putting it mildly. I can’t look at them, let alone touch them. When I hear them cry, I want to cover my ears and run wherever my eyes look. When I was three or four years old, at night I could not sleep well, and on one of these nights, when my mother and I were together at home, I walked around the room, examining everything around and suddenly I heard a child's cry, how very little ones cry children, I did not understand what was happening, I climbed under the chair and closed my ears, but the cry became even louder. It seemed to me that someone was crying under the chair. I asked my mother who was crying, but she did not hear anything and said that I had made it all up. But this is not fiction. This scream seems to still ring in my ears. I can’t listen to my friend’s stories about how she wants to have a baby, I feel disgusted, I want to shout to the whole world so that NO ONE NEVER TALKS TO ME MORE ABOUT THIS, and does not say a word about pregnancy and childbirth !!! Where is it from? Why do I hate them so much? In my life, there have never been circumstances that would have contributed to this. It's just that from early childhood it was. I've always hated them. Recently, this problem has become simply unbearable. I don't even imagine what such fierce hatred can be connected with, and most importantly, how to get rid of this nightmare, because someday I will also have to become a mother and I want my child to be happy. Thanks.
But there is more news that Somali, Eritrean and Ethiopian girls know that the only possible protection against these rapists is to arrive in Libya already pregnant. In fact, this is the only taboo that these men bring to the beasts in Libya, almost always respected, in short, they do not violate pregnant women, or they do it less often.
And it is for this reason that they come to Lampedusa within nine months or with a baby in their arms. Because they start when they are already pregnant, thereby reducing the risk of rape in the desert. Now, this is the "devil's plan." This is "invasion", "colonization". Women who face hell and try to reduce it are "horror."
Ksenia, there are such concepts as "obsessive fear" and "phobia". You have a childhood fear of pregnant women and small children. In general, it should be noted that fear is a protective mechanism of the human psyche that allows us to avoid troubles and risky situations, but sometimes fear arises in front of seemingly normal things. The fact that you heard crying and were very frightened affected your consciousness. In childhood, after all, people are very impressionable, and everything that they experience affects their life in the future. Phobias can and should be eliminated. A specialist, a psychotherapist, will help you, who will work with your memory, reveal the problem and recommend exercises, therapy, to eliminate it. Perhaps he will use hypnosis or light suggestion. See a psychiatrist because your problem needs to be fixed.
You can try the therapy yourself. Phobia can be cured by gradually approaching and adapting to the factor that scares you. I recommend that you read something about pregnant women on the Internet, watch interesting videos about newborns, and disassemble photographic materials made by professional photographers on this topic. You will feel disgust, but you have to do it. Do not overload yourself, deal with the topic of children carefully, little by little. Look for interesting facts, then get closer and closer to the children themselves, their development, the issue of pregnancy. When you realize that this is a natural phenomenon, you can overcome the problem.
Among other things, they are often non-Muslims, especially in the Horn of Africa. Where about half of the population is Christian. Thus, these women will grow up as their Christian children, much more Christian than those who grow up in secularized Italian families. And this is even if they bear the fruit of violence instead of a child conceived before leaving.
I wonder if Giornale knows this. This way of doing journalism is terribly annoying. Are there really people who, reading such reckless words, think that it is true? Gilioli is right to condemn this deliberate forgery and use by terrorists of a certain press, which serves to raise fears and dig ditches. After all, this is an argument that brings more votes than economic crisis and welfare. There are wall-right parties all over Europe and even in Italy, and those who do not openly shake the flag below under ambiguous fire lighting.
Surveys conducted by the Canadian Health Agency show that seeing a pregnant woman is four times more annoying to people than in any other outdoor situation. An unfriendly attitude can not only spoil the mood of the expectant mother, but also negatively affect the health of the baby. What to do? Practice psychological self-defense! After all, you still need strength, both physical and psychological, before and after childbirth.
For this necessary task of destroying lies, it is necessary that progressives take on a large role in the propositional or decisive component, not enough to defend the humanitarian approach, Baobab or Caritas, and laudable applications. For example, the data seems to say that 40% of arrivals are now eligible for asylum. And the remaining 60%, what are we doing? It would seem that a piece of paper is enough to solve the problem: 40% remain, hopefully better protected and integrated, and 60% who come to us "only" for economic reasons return home.
“In the West, the external culture of behavior and attitude towards pregnant women is better and better formed,” says Yulia Kryukova. - For example, in some countries, dental clinics are organized specifically for pregnant women. In some cities there is a ban on smoking in public places in the presence of a pregnant woman. At the workplace, a woman expecting an addition is not obliged to inform her manager about the upcoming changes, and he, in turn, is tactful, respects her boundaries and does not pester her with questions. And in China, for example, a woman is issued a special badge telling others about her status at the most early dates pregnancy when the tummy is not yet visible. Russian everyday life for expectant mothers is much more severe.
Nobody is sent physically. Thus, these "rejected" remain here in the shadows, without recognition, without rights, at best, to cheat their hat in hand in parking lots or in front of supermarkets, or are credited as slaves for tomatoes or worse. Gilioli, do we want to start a serious discussion about immigration?
When the Cayman lungs ruled certain news, they were hidden away, now the pro-pros and the environment are swinging on the front page. About devilish plans. Even if correct, it can be said that not only the capital to discover unmanageability. He who stands at the table is also the table of the most foolish of henchmen, called the law: his own law. From Ragusa, from the Ragusa prosecutor's office, there is an example of this personal way of shuffling cards for their own use and consumption.
Situation: family discord
American consultants-gynecologists without fail ask the expectant mother how her relatives and friends relate to pregnancy, and whether she needs help in settling relations with them. Information is entered into the map, in a section specially provided for this. Analysis of the answers shows that in 14% of cases, aggression occurs from relatives, which never manifested itself before pregnancy. It happens that the husband perceives pregnancy as a threat to his relationship with his wife, or suddenly begins to totally control his wife. Mom decides to take care of her daughter as a little girl, tormenting her with advice and criticism. For sisters or mother-in-law, the fact of offspring often causes jealousy.
This fact is of paramount importance: it concerns “the case of an Indian citizen registered on August 16, accused of attempting to kidnap a 5-year-old daughter at Scoglitti Beach” and the consequence of leaving him missing him. Crime crime - ironically says that the chief prosecutor of Ragusa Carmelo Petralia, interviewed by the Republic of Palermo, will "take the child in his arms", but our Code does not provide. A clear and exemplary demonstration of the fact that the only one who makes an Indian, mistaking for public opinion, is the chief attorney to defend the position of this power of attorney.
✓ What to do: A pregnant woman builds up negative emotions faster than other people. Therefore, you need to "discharge" more often. Do not accumulate negative, but immediately state what does not suit you. Talk to those who pester you, rather than show your dissatisfaction with defiant behavior. Explain to loved ones: “You give me advice all the time. I'm annoyed. Perhaps these are my problems, but I feel hurt and angry. " You may even lose your temper: screaming, stamping your feet, or crying. The main thing is not to give the interlocutor offensive assessments for him, then he will perceive your emotions more calmly.
Not caring, perhaps in the midst of an interview, the key to reading and the effect that may cause his irony from the taste of a little "too superfluous." Even worse, much worse, however, seems to be the message that is launching a multitude of unbalanced and pedophiles who turn into a boot every hour of the day and night. From that moment on, they will defend their right to "take the child in their arms" as they please. This way, they will always find a toga for Carmelo Petralia that will justify them. Although, parents with younger children will no longer know how to vote for them.
Situation: at work
The attitude towards working pregnant women in Russia is ambiguous. As a rule, colleagues either torture a woman with questions, bypassing her desire to talk about her pregnancy, or “turn on” demonstrative ignorance. And the leader casts sidelong glances, awakening guilt and anger in her.
✓ What to do: Your weapon is honesty and directness. Be clear and clear about your wishes. If you speak directly and sincerely about what you want and what you don't, disputes are easier to resolve.
What is the satisfaction of ripple? No, the prosecutor clearly did not need to ask himself any questions. As the chief prosecutor, a psychiatrist, psychologist and psychotherapist did everything himself and decided, no doubt, no, that Indian, he did not kidnap the child. Don't panic: a day of fertility will restore this decompensation.
We need to clarify some things. In Italy we have millions of young and old people who do not have a job because they lost it, because they were fired or did not get it, because the job for them no longer exists. What would you say if suddenly three million "poor French", three million "poor Spaniards" and three million "poor people from Eastern Europe" poured into Italy? And, naturally, they claimed to be supported by the Italian people. Or maybe they even received - at the expense of the state - in comfortable and well-equipped city hotels?
Psychologist's comment: “Men in leadership positions tend to respond to a pregnant woman's request to adjust her work schedule. Naturally, not everything and not always, but still, there is a place for this in our reality. "
Situation: "Make way for me!"
A pregnant woman is vulnerable enough and really wants (although she may not show it) protection, support and attention. This is natural and normal! She wants to be accepted in her new status, but often she cannot convey this to others for a number of reasons. But expectations are often not met, which makes the woman offended and angry. This can also provoke a hostile reaction from others.
From the voice of an important person in modern architectural culture, we hear that in Italy the possibility of building public housing should be banned forever, using the most suitable material for new housing structures: that is, reinforced concrete with internal iron and well calculated. Since no one is able to control the correct dosage of cement and iron, so the structure made over the past several centuries is much better, says the Senator for Lifetime Use for Reconstruction The earthquake in the country is destroying prefabricated wooden houses and only an appropriate "fix" can be completed and authorized for "round stone wall barracks" now reduced to rubble after recent earthquakes - from us - always in ambush.
✓ What to do: Ask to give in - it's not a bit ashamed. Say, “Excuse me, could you please make a seat for me? Not because I have a big belly, but I just feel bad. "
Psychologist's comment: “I asked my friends about the sensations when they saw a woman in a position. Some men replied that this prompts them to take action - to give up their seats, skip the line, and somehow help. Others admitted that they felt confused and timid. But in some, anger awakens: "Why should I?"
Crying to hear certain speeches made by prominent intellectuals in the regime's television broadcasts! Muslim children will grow up, says Giornale. But no, many of the Horn of Africa, Christian children will grow up, Espresso replies. After looking at him for a moment, he laughed out loud and said: "I think no one bought it, this is Il-Jornale!" And laughs. Sometimes when you see Sallusti on TV or pop out a few words like what is written by Il Giornale, my father looks at me, winks and makes me: “I recommend taking it once by mistake, okay, the second one is already repeat offenders! ".
Julia Kryukova, child and family psychologist, gestalt therapist:
“All experiences, questions to oneself, to the quality of one's life, moments of daily relationships with relatives and work colleagues, interaction with society as a whole are actualized during pregnancy. At the symbolic level, a pregnant woman herself finds herself in the womb of her own mother and after the birth of her child, she unconsciously lives with him all her childhood... Hence her some insecurity and fears. A pregnant woman can help herself by answering her own questions: “What do I want? What is most important to me now? What can you not do at the moment? " Start with the easiest for you and work your way up to the harder. For example, don't answer a call from a pesky friend. Each person is alone, despite our sociality and the need for communication. Loneliness is in each of us and it is important to be able to talk to him. "
From grace, where did you read that any of those present ever suggested that an Indian was persecuting a child? And is it so funny that a prosecutor enforces the law without arresting someone for a crime that does not include this case? Out of curiosity, she is not one of those who still regrets that the country was organized by the leadership of a convicted tax fraud and acquitted for paying sex with a minor because he really believed that the girl was Mubarak's granddaughter?
What to say, as always consistent. Why why is the homeopath reformer Bersani in favor of the coalition prize? Imagine that the coalition will have a decisive weight of the allied left, external to the party, also secondary, but decisive in quantitative terms, which will determine the "center" of Renzi in government practice.
Situation: object of general interest
Attempts to determine by touch “who lives in the tummy”, loud “sighs,” and many other rituals of friendliness and increased attention can infuriate even the most balanced expectant mother.
✓ What to do: Protect your personal space. Use a psychological technique called a dome. Before going out into the street, "pull" the transparent hood over yourself: imagine that you are grabbing the edges of a strong fabric lying around you on the floor. As you straighten, you cover yourself with it, leaving the required amount of space, and then close your arms above your head. You are now a gift that cannot be unpacked until the specified time. Every time you try to invade your personal space, politely but firmly explain that it is unpleasant for you. However, usually people themselves feel the "barrier" you have put up and behave more restrained.
Maybe with the decision of the constitutional court you find yourself in such a reform. And nerosso goes its own way. We are not politically related. "I don't think Montanelli would be proud of his students!" What about Marcone Travaglino? Then he behaves not like a journalist, but like a fan.
For business reasons, he married the reasons behind the Boccaloni movement, which is always defended and in every case without minimal criticism. He bought a wife for 12 years and did not regret or was ashamed. He always justified his action as a common custom: "madam." He can find all the documentation on the Internet, including a creepy interview of him, in fact, in adulthood.
Your Stress Actions
Breathe. The first thing to do if you find yourself in a stressful situation is to start breathing deeply. Inhale and exhale will help to pause, and after a minute the event will not seem so terrible, and you will be able to react correctly.
Analyze. Try to understand what caused your abuser to be aggressive - fear, or maybe an obsession? Understanding will allow you to look at it with different eyes.
Imagine. What do you want to do with the "aggressor"? Make your wishes come true in your mind. In this way, you will release anger and depression. If you have not managed to get rid of the negative emotion, do it in fantasies later.
Confuse your opponent. Did they tell you something unpleasant and harsh? Agree right away, and then go towards the logic of the person and systematically develop his line to the point of absurdity.
Sorry that Raffaele Cantone sabotaged the junta of Rome with a bale in support of Matteo Renzi. And seriously that Virginia Ruggie asked Raffaele Cantone, who had already given wrong opinions, an opinion that could be offered to the Council of State. This position was divided according to the social profile of the former junta budget advisor Ragga Marcello Minenna. This is another mistake of Raffaele Cantone.
Finally, our Marco stated that those from Rome are trifles. Great guys are just sycophants. They shouldn't have been tearing their eggs apart every minute with their observations and provided with white paper by the Maya. Thorough and accurate analysis! This is Gyornale whining in the wind, if not cutting Christian resistance to a caricature. Or, as soon as Gilioli's thesis is married, "we organize charters to prevent a preventive concept or a fundamentally Islamic concept from their pilgrimage to those lands where it goes from morning to night."
Latent causes of the negative reaction of others to pregnancy
✓ A sense of duty. A pregnant woman fulfills an important mission of procreation and therefore “automatically” gets the right to a particularly careful and attentive attitude. This, in turn, is always associated by most people with the restriction of freedom and the desire to defend this freedom in the struggle.
✓ Fear. Everyone knows that pregnancy ends in childbirth. “What if it happens right here and now! How can I help? " - in such a situation, a person, without even having time to realize his thoughts, instantly experiences an almost physical reaction to them (anxiety, fear, adrenaline rush) and, defending himself, responds with aggressive behavior.
✓ Shame. Aggression is an inadequate attitude of a part of society to sex: fear, mistrust, complexes. A lot of people different ages on an unconscious level, they look at a pregnant woman as a seducer or seduced.
✓ Disturbing memories. The fear, pain, resentment and stress associated with childbirth are ingrained in the memory of both women and men. Often the problems lie in unfulfilled motherhood, dissatisfaction with their children, unjustified hopes and the understanding that nothing can be changed. Unconscious aggression in this case will be directed at the object that caused painful associations, i.e. expectant mother.
✓ Envy. For some women, pregnancy was the best time in life - solid positive, when the whole world revolved around them. Memories of this can lead to real jealousy and envy.
Old Charles Hebdo, a former French émigré in the States, dried ten out of ten from a distance of 50 meters, and the pregnancy cost twice as much. It seems incredible to Europeans, but it's so funny. And we ask ourselves: how does Gyornale compare to a developed democracy? And sooner or later he will arrive, first with newspapers, and then for real. They call it freedom, inside the statue.
The worst Gilioli is back. I have never seen a line on Muslim girls killed by their relatives, because they are too westernized, they stay where they are. The power system of media and mainstream cinematography is ruthless and unchanging. De Dominikas' appointment must be laughed at! Like Fo, the most overpriced Italian intellectual of all time!
Situation: hospital
Increasingly, women are complaining of aggression from those who are supposed to encourage and help. Often, doctors talk too strictly and even rudely with the patient, intimidate her or impose certain medications and services.
✓ What to do: If you find it difficult to go to health facilities, try to provide yourself with support. Ask someone you trust to accompany you. If you are still “lucky” to encounter such a would-be specialist, express your emotions directly: “Doctor, you are shouting, but my legs have buckled and I want to cry!”. Sincerity is sobering. An alternative option is to threaten to complain to the head physician.
Well, now you can explain how he climbs the mirrors. As the thinker said a little deeper than her: "I'm not afraid of barbarians at the door, but idiots who close doors from the inside." This sheet of paper is fine, yes and no to the toilet, and anyway scratches. And that we have this system, therefore we do not have it.
Bella is a photograph of an eugenio scarf awarded by his beloved mussolini, it would be nice if he could tell us that this is just his doppelganger. In the early days of Berluski, I had minimal respect for the journalists of the republic and for espresso. But no judge thinks of chasing these animals in double breasts for incitement to hatred and false and biased news?